Written by Jamila Powell

Ok so yesterday evening me and the lovebug were eating dinner at an undisclosed location!  The spot was crowded so we decided to eat at the bar.  Soooooooo, there was an older gentleman to my right who ordered a drink, and then soon after a young lady half his age walked in to join him!  Due to the age difference naturally I was inquisitive about what exactly was going on!  Was she a working girl, like what was really going on!  So low and behold the fine gentleman says something like oh FYI I’m married!  Like really?  Why are you exchanging numbers with a woman other then your wife?  I’m confused!  He then starts to apologize profusely saying that he hopes he didn’t lead her on, but he does have his ring on.  Meanwhile he’s all leaning in on her and basically saying look I’m married, this isn’t going anywhere, but I’m down if you are!  Of course he didn’t actually say all this, but that was the underlying tone!  So for all my ladies out there I’ve compiled some tips not to end up wasting your time with a married man!  Play close attention!

1. Look to see if he has a wedding ring on, or a sign of a wedding ring i.e. tan line, etc…  This should be done as soon as you meet a man and feel any type of attraction.
2. He’s never readily available to talk on the phone, can only chat while at work, or only calls you when he is out and about!  
3. You only communicate via text.  BINGO!  FYI if that’s your only means of communication with a man married or not please move on, unless it’s a set arrangement for a mutually beneficial relationship!
4. You never go anywhere in public!  This is a big red flag!
5. You only meet friends really close to him, or acquaintances.  Don’t be fooled if you meet close friends or family, because chances are he is a chronic cheater, and they aren’t going to tell his wife that he’s a low down dirty dog!
6. He’s “separated.”  Every situation is different but, if he still lives in the same house with his wife, or is having relations with her keep it moving!  So play close attention, because a man will tell you anything!
7. You’ve never been to his casa!  I’m not saying rush into visiting his pad, because we all know where that can lead.  Though if you are a good ways in, and you’ve only seen the inside of a hotel room or your spot, keep it moving fast!
8. When you are out his phone is constantly ringing or he is receiving text messages.  That probably means his wife is wondering where he is, and why he’s not at home!
9. He’s moving super fast!  That means time is limited, and his only goal is to get your goodies!  No time for investment, so either you’re giving it up, or he’s going to be gone real fast!
10. Flashy, flashy!  He is trying to wine and dine you or buy your affection in order to distract you from the obvious, or to lay the foundation to pay you for mistress services!

I hope these tips help!  Don’t play the fool, you’ve been warned!